This also happens to be a new pet peeve of mine. I’ve noticed people beginning to speak ill of their past relationships. Here’s a tip to make your life better: don’t do that.
My new policy when people mention that an ex was a “crazy bitch” is not to judge the crazy ex, but to wonder what is flawed with the person who said it that they would date someone so crazy. Unless there is a rationale for it, like “she had tons of problems, but F-ing my brains out wasn’t one of them”, I’ll just assume the person is at least that crazy. They could also choose weak, desperate, or gullible.
As my mom said, talking badly about your own history is like setting your own house on fire. People don’t feel sorry for you that your house is on fire, they just think you’re an idiot.
finally, some goddamn working comments:
I think there’s strength in admitting that at one time you were a different person, who was crazy, weak, desperate, or gullible. And not everyone brings up their ex to fish for sympathy.